Uncomfortable But Important Truths About Adulting

 ADULTING

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The very first thing one should understand about Adulting is that, its not exactly the same as shown in the picture above. Yes, some moments might be like this when people enjoy their Adulthood and they plan a trip or often go to parties, basically celebrate their transition into Adulthood and it's usually the starting phase of their Adulthood. Ultimately, one fine day they actually realize that the world of  Adulthood is way more vast and difficult than they thought. Eventually, they have to take those hits and all of a sudden they feel a mountain of responsibilities on their shoulders which leads to disappointments and guilt into them. Their are various kind of changes a person experience in the transition phase to Adulthood. 

1) Not Much Freedom ( Mentally) - I have personally experience this that once you are an Adult, You stop giving time to yourself and start making compromises , maybe because you have to focus more on your career now or you have started thinking more about someone else's happiness or you are being pressurized by somebody that you are a mature person now and you need to be less selfish. There could be thousands of reasons behind this but ultimately what you realize is as if you are living in a cage! Yes, this is what it actually feels like. Everyone has responsibilities in this world but how we tackle them, this divides us from being a positive person and being a negative person. These burdens are just a part of life, these are not life and this leads to depression in some people.  

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What can save us from getting depressed and disappoint is Yes or No attitude. No one knows you better than you, so you can be your own judge and decide whether this thing is your cup of tea or not and you can right away say either Yes ( Only if you are happy to do it ) or say No ( in case you feel like this is gonna get you in some trouble, be it mental or physical ). 

2) You start caring more (About Almost Everything)  -  Yes, this is true! Whether you want it or not, you start caring more about every damn thing in your life. These things are nothing but part of our daily lives, example : your loved ones, your career, your wealth, your looks, your actions, and the list goes on. But the most important thing you should care about the most is your health and here I am not just talking about your physical but mental health as well because if you are not fit mentally, it can cause problems to your loved ones as well in an indirect way and you'll never know about it. Physical and mental health are inter-linked. If you are physically fit, you'll feel fit mentally also and if you are mentally happy, you'll feel like doing an extra set of bench press or squat in the gym. Doing Yoga everyday is also a great activity to enhance the flow of feel good hormones in your body. 

The solution to this problem of caring unnecessarily is having a "Let It Be" attitude. As you have no direct control on the things which are going to happen in your life but you do have an indirect control of it by having this attitude and this will help you in releasing your stress level which will ultimately lead to a happy life and better control on things . 

3) Life is a Roller Coaster Ride - Life is full of ups and downs and we all are part of it. We don't know exactly what we'll be doing in the next 5 or 10 years, literally, we don't even know about what is gonna happen with us in the next 5 minutes, then what's the point worrying about the future. When someone enters Adulthood, it's the responsibility of the parents/teachers/mentors to tell him/her about this. Few people understand this but the majority of them do not. 

4) We Learn that Self Respect Matters - Even I used to ignore this fact that our own self respect really matters a lot! When I say a lot, it means a lot. People will come in our lives for some time and then they'll go, well, they actually don't go anywhere, it's just that we part ways, as everyone has different destinations and ultimately what matters the most is our life goals. Self-respect is an inner quality that each individual must take time to develop. It comes after experiencing  setbacks and failures throughout life and knowing how to rebuild.

5) Choosing your Friends Wisely - This might look like the most common and also unimportant to some people but this is the most important and often ignored, while someone is entering Adulthood. It leaves a great impact on our brains, what kind of people we meet or talk to. We knowingly or unknowingly start to grasp their ideas, thoughts and after some time we become like them. That is why if you check out a group of friends, you'll find that some way or the other, they think the same ( Exceptions are always there ) after all, that is why they have become such good friends.

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They say you’re given your relatives, but you choose your friends, which is why choosing your friends wisely is one of the most important decisions you will make. You’re actually choosing who you want to surround yourself with, or what energy you want to bring into your life. In a certain way, your friends are a reflection of who you are.

And, remember, a good friend is not someone who feels sorry for us or agrees with us when we feel like victims. A good friend is someone who reminds us that we are 100% responsible for our lives and that the power is within us to stop complaining and blaming. A good friend empowers us. Of course, real friendship is only possible when you are aware of yourself and the world around you. It is your decision to choose the friends who will not only make you happy but will help you grow into the person you were meant to be.

Choose Your friends wisely.